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I’ve promised a post about separation anxiety. However, Sarah Ockwell-Smith, the founder of BabyCalm, was quicker than me. She wrote something about this topic today, and as I couldn’t put it any better, I let you read her post.
What you’ll learn in this post: that separation anxiety is a good thing, it shows that your baby has a healthy emotional development and that his/her mum has done a great job; you’ll learn the basics of John Bolby’s hugely important Attachment Theory; and how you can help your baby getting through this difficult stage.
Separation Anxiety is a really important topic in every baby’s first 18 months or so. Unfortunately, in our culture it is widely misunderstoo
d – in our independence driven Western culture, babies are supposed to learn to be independent from day one, but the emotionally healthiest way to raise a baby is actually to let her be as dependent as she needs to be, for as long as she needs it. Once they have had enough of being dependent, they’ll want to become independent themselves. It is said that those babies that were allowed to be dependent are the most independent ones later in life. Just listen to your baby, they know exactly what they need!
I’ve found that often when they are going through great spurts of independence in one area they will feel need to be more dependent in others. For example, when they start wanting to walk everywhere and give up on the buggy they may suffer from separation anxiety.